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HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE- SO CHOOSE IT.

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Always choose to be happy               Source:   Bing What is Happiness? You have probably read thousands of articles telling you how to live a happy life and how to find happiness and what can I say, most of them are right. We all want to be happy, to wake up to life of definite purpose and feel fulfilled in what we do. Isn't that what life is supposed to be anyway. But happiness is not something definite but rather subjective, changing from person to person. There are many definitions of happiness all over the place but the one thing that is synonymous with all these definitions is that happiness is feeling of content and fulfillment in life.  Truth be told, we are not always going to be happy in in life, why? Because life is like a Ferris wheel; one second it’s up and the other it’s all going downhill very quickly so it's up to you whether you are going to grumble the whole ride or enjoy it. Bluntly speaking, happiness is a choice. It is much easier to wait for something p
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WHY DISAPPOINTMENTS ARE OUR RESPONSIBILITY.

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Source;  Bing After a week of rather a disappointing series of events, I decided I needed to blow off some steam. So I carried my extremely burdened heart, a notebook and a pen to put my day sadness into words. I went over to a friend's house and just let the stress of the past few days go. After listening to me, my friend came to a strong conclusion; I gave way too many fucks. So what did he do? He sent me   Mark Manson 's book, 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck'. At first I was confused. Why would he send that? DId I really give too many fucks? So my curiosity got the better of me and I read the book. To say that he was not right would be an understatement. I not only learnt that I gave way too many fucks, but also I had to learn to reserve my fucks for what was truly important. The reason why I felt all these disappointments were simply one; I cared about everything, even that which I had no business caring for. So when things did not go my way, which they didn
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DISAPPOINTMENTS; LIFE'S LEMONS.

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  Image source;  Bing Disappointments. They are a part of   life,   but that doesn't mean we warmly welcome them into our lives. In fact, if it were up to us, we would throw all disappointing factors in our lives out by the scruffs of their necks. However, that is not that case. We have to deal with our beloved project proposals being deemed as a rubbish, people failing to keep their promises and most of all, hopes about goals and dreams being dashed like no man's business. But disappointment can mean more. It's an indicator that whatever we are doing isn't enough. It may be an indicator that we need to change our game plans. Many great things and people have risen out of disappointments, but that's if we know how to deal with disappointments.  For the next four weeks, we are going to look at how to navigate disappointments, finding happiness in sad times and, most of all, how to make disappointments work for us.
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THE TRUTH ABOUT PUTTING ON ANOTHER PERSON'S SHOES

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Source:  jooinn.com The number of times I have heard the expression 'put yourself in other people's shoes' are countless but  the truth is that I knew what it meant but never really understood it. The ability to see things from another person's perspective is something we find ourselves using often as human beings because to every person, they are right, according to their perspective anyway. So you find yourselve putting on the other people's shoes more often than you really like; to see how they feel and try to understand them. You then quickly put back your shoes, which are much more comfortable. But what if putting on another person's shoes may cost you yours? Then what? It is easier to be more empathetic when the price to pay is small. However, when we are negatively affected, when there is a chance of you losing out on something precious and waking up and sleeping mentally exhausted; then the real test sets in. Experience being the best teacher, I recently
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CONSIDER OTHERS WHEH MAKING DECISIONS

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Source;  Bing Happiness is the state of fulfilment and satisfaction in one's life. Who wouldn't want that? Happiness is something most human beings desire and to be honest, it is the best gift a person can give to themselves. Happiness is a choice, a decision that you make as a person and our decisions, on the most part affect the people around us. It's common knowledge that human beings are social creatures. We cannot live isolated which means that when we make our choices, we have to consider those around us. Family, friends and even colleagues; all these are affected by our decisions because when you enter into someone's life, you become a part of their existence and them yours. Sometimes the hardest part of making a decision is considering others. For example a person doing a job they hate so much  decides to change their careers. The problem would not be the person's career change, it would be the fact that they have bills to pay, people to take care of and mos
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